“Conventional society and free Social Media”

Neither everything is meant to be shared nor everyone deserve to know everything about you…Specially your personal life!!!

We human beings live among various social circles. The closest blood relationships with parents, our siblings then relatives, neighbors and acquaintances, class fellows and work fellows as well. As a matter of fact, our behavior/attitude within each of our social circle is different; the level of closeness, esteem and frankness varies from one group to the other. Not everything could be commonly shared between these social circles. Our maturity level and treatment to various people also gets advanced with age. Whereas Social media keeps everyone at the same level giving the equal opportunities to all without the distinctions just explained, everyone is a ‘friend’ on social media. In my humble opinion, there can never be such a separation of our relationships levels on social media due to its domain, which is an un-natural thing.

Social media has revolutionized the process of human interaction and wonders can happen with a touch of finger. In our daily lives today, we often give references of events encountered on the social media posts and discussions undergone on various topics. Whole world can look into what you have shared and what are your views. However, most of us are not very good in setting up our privacy up to reasonable extent thus live vulnerable online life. Therefore, the amount of damage is immeasurable due to unintended mistakes. Even if you setup privacy, you can never be sure of how far your activities may reach!

Today, we share our social gatherings with friends and families. We cannot travel without sharing updated status, we have to tell the whole world what food we are eating, where and with whom to digest it properly. All of this is meaningless to many others but they have access to all our personal activities. What is the need of showing your new house or expansive car to the whole world? What about those who cannot afford to travel, or eat such expansive food. Why post fake smiles, who are we making fool?

Most crucial part comes in when people share their family lives. Is there really a need of sharing wedding pictures of you and your extended family with everyone? Sharing honeymoon travel and pictures, is it obligatory? Personal relationships between Husband and wife are an extremely private thing; today why people forget this and share private pictures and emotions openly. Above all, facing various questions even from irrelevant persons about your personal life, which could be avoided if you had use the sharing buttons wisely. Are likes that much important to us? I am unable to understand why people expose their life partners to the whole world. One of the issues of sharing too much can be that you are providing people with chances to comment on your personal lives. When you are sharing your happy lives openly, bear in mind that the factor of “Nazr-e-Badd”/ jealousy also comes into play as a bitter reality.

One related thing that comes into mind is that free-mixing was never that easy before which now has new dimensions. Even stranger Male and Females can add each other, talk freely; you can see anyone personal pictures and videos as they upload their stories. Often same people in real life claim to be preserving to strangers and obeying veil while on street; they should think for a second that their pictures and videos can also damage their modesty and could go in hands the exploiters. Up to 1990’s it was considered an out of world thing to get a picture or number of girls but now both things are available on fingertips. Have the moral values of society changed altogether?

That reticence/parda between our various social circles is very important and should be kept in mind while doing anything on social media. I know many of wise people who are very selective in what they share and some do not share even a single-family picture on social media channels. Some people have even left this online world to live a content life with their family. Technology has given us chances to keep our things more private such as sharing the personal items within relevant groups through WhatsApp messenger, which is far better than sharing it openly and loudly on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter.

My sincere suggestion to all is that please think many times before you share. Do not expose yourself too much because you never know real intentions of others; please do not become a joke. Although Facebook has introduced blocking options but I have experience that this is not helpful all the time because all of your contacts would not have applied same filters. The media entices you to share your feelings and you can become a prey anytime to share un-necessary items. It easy to share but it’s almost difficult to wipe out our your web footprint. Preserving our cultural values should be an integral part of our efforts for a safe future.

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QASUR CHILD ABUSE CASE: HIGH TIME TO CHANNELIZE A FRUSTRATED SOICETY

Sexual crimes of different nature have been a factor of Pakistani society which leaves us in a state of shock from time to time. Latest event been rape and murder of Qasur’s innocent Zainab. Lot has been said on this issue and as I write these lines, her murderer is still unknown. This will soon become a story of past, people will again get busy in their own lives until another such event takes place (Allah forbid). It is a fact that only those effected can feel the real pain and all others are mere commentators.

However, if we think sensibly it is an issue for all of us. Moral decline and frustration is on the rise. Every now and then, we hear events of Sexual Harassment, rape of innocent women and in worst cases our little angels are effected. There have even some cases of men abused by some ambitious women. Adultery (of all forms) being considered a smaller crime compared to former ones. If a diagnosis is carried out, we will find out that roots of all such acts are same. If we really want to solve these issues, then we need to really analyze this and implement solutions to root out such awful acts. Human being carry 3 fundamental urges 1) Urge to Live, 2) Urge to Pleasure and 3) Urge to Power. Here the issue is with elements of ‘Urge to Pleasure’, which has not been dealt appropriately in our society.

Talking on this issue is a Taboo, which needs to be broken at this point of time if not at a later stage. Damage control needs to be done.

Lack of correct information

In my opinion, people are not been fed with knowledge about this desire/urge and how to fulfil it. Adding to that, the overall atmosphere of society is also not monitored which adds to confusion and frustration of people leading to such events.

Children are not made aware of probable issues that they might face in this regard. However as the child grows up, his/her body is developed with related emotions. Adding to lack of correct information, he finds bold scenes in the movies and dramas. His/her desires gets a peak with the passage of time. He/she receive information from his/her colleagues or available information from other sources such as internet. Due to lack of formal guidance, many people consider themselves as severely infected and fight undue psychological pressures. Proper knowledge is never conveyed to them.

Sexual Harassment as topic was covered by one of our valiant University teacher which was largely skipped by female students. We also attended with a sense of shyness but it was worthy sessions, which opened our eyes to many issues along with their solutions. There was no indecency involved within those lectures in fact we were given real life examples for sexual harassment. That was first and last formal information that I received in life.

Vulgarity in media

Women is used as a show piece to attract customers. Bold advertisements, dressing of women and the content topics are irresponsibly handled. Such dreamy situations is contrary to situation on ground and takes a person to a different world in which controlling their thoughts and emotions become even a bigger test. Mini cinemas and internet are easily accessible to the young boys where their minds are infiltrated with such dirty things. Within many of the Investigation programs, the topics of sexual harassment and male-female affairs are telecasted irresponsibly giving them a wrong lesson at large.

Nikah (Marriage)

Today, getting married has become very difficult, as people have lifted their demands to sky limits. Useless norms and traditions like Mehndi, Dholki and Dowery etc have made it difficult for a normal person to get married. I know a person who was not initiating his life partner search as he was first targeting to gather Rs.10 lacs and it took another about 1.5 years when he achieved 10 lacs; this is so unfair due to peer pressures. Multiple marriage is considered as a crime. These difficulties often end up in opening doors of adultery/sex crimes within people.

Involvement of Powerful People

During Qasur’s child abuse case, a couple of years back, involvement of some really powerful people was found as reported by media. That story got refreshed this time but it’s yet to reach its logical conclusion.

Some people shamelessly try to forces working ladies in doing questionable acts as part of blackmailing using their seat and influence. Lately, news channels have revealed such mean people.

TO DO’S

Islamic Teachings

We need to be very clear in our approach. At one place we claim to be Muslims and nationals of an Islamic state but at the other place shy away when anybody talks about obeying Islam and implementing Islamic Laws. Fahashi (Vulgarity) is one of main topics of Quran. Allah (S.W.T.) sets clear principles of Parda (veil) and other measures to avoid ultimate incident of Zina (Infidelity).

“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do. “ ( An-Noor, Chapter #24, Verse #30) (Ref #1)

We take reference from Hadith regarding fundamental teachings of Islam to avoid Zina (Adultery)

Narrated Ibn `Abbas:

I did not see anything so resembling minor sins as what Abu Huraira said from the Prophet, who said, “Allah has written for the son of Adam his inevitable share of adultery whether he is aware of it or not: The adultery of the eye is the looking (at something which is sinful to look at), and the adultery of the tongue is to utter (what it is unlawful to utter), and the innerself wishes and longs for (adultery) and the private parts turn that into reality or refrain from submitting to the temptation.”

Reference: Sahih al-Bukhari 6612

In-book reference: Book 82, Hadith 18

USC-MSA web (English) reference : Vol. 8, Book 77, Hadith 609

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(Ref #2)

Strict Islamic Laws must placed in the society. Making an example out of such people will serve the cause by inducing fear.

Ulema (Islamic Scholors) should address the causes and effects of such issues. In Zainab’s case as well; I was wondering where all of those big names hiding out and not giving any guidance statement to millions of their followers. Most of us are not aware about the composition of human body (material and spiritual aspects) and how to stream lines requirements associated with our being as per teachings of Islam. Everyone should make effort to get used to of Islamic practices in this regard.

Our Nation needs a Sex Vaccination

Like vaccines are provided for various diseases ,like the war strategy is made , like controlling the law and order ; sexual issues must be taken up as well. Some suggestions listed are listed below:

  • Indulgence of proper knowledge among growing children and awareness of how to react in case any such enticement is there by an offender. Basic information regarding human body, Male-Female couple relationship to be clearly conveyed to avoid un-necessary curiosity/uncertainty in young generation’s mind. Father can tell his son and mother can tell her daughter regarding this. Furthermore, separate Boys-Girls class sessions can be designed in which message appropriate to a certain age group can be conveyed wisely.
  • Easy weddings to be promoted and useless practices like Mehndi, Dholki and other non-Islamic functions to be curtailed which will reduce the load on masses especially low income class. Encouraging unmarried people to get married via collective marriages.
  • Multiple marriage for men is considered a sin in our society; we are in a state of denial on this issue which can become a tool to give support to thousands of unmarried women.
  • Media must be responsible as regards to content they air. Ladies specially must be cautious regarding their get up.
  • Reaching out the explicit content to be made as difficult as possible with technology and severe punishments.
  • Doctors and psychologists need to come forward with articles and short videos to provide basic sex education to masses.
  • Why child abuse cases are hitting Qasur so hard? this should be seriously researched out. Also to other notorious parts of country infected by such ailments needs to be addressed.

Current system and government is most likely not to take this up seriously. Severity of such issues calls for an immediate action adopting solutions like above in our daily lives. We need to be proactive & aggressive to deal with problems as regards to sexual needs like we carry out arrangements for our living (food, clothes and shelter). This will surely bring a huge drop in the sexual crimes and making our society a better place.

References:

Ref#1    : https://www.searchtruth.com/chapter_display.php?chapter=24&translator=5#30

Ref#2    : https://sunnah.com/bukhari/82

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Pakistan Visit, 2017 

                                                          From diaries of an expat

After living about Nine years abroad, I recently finished yet another annual visit to Pakistan and as usual it left many impressions.

Meeting a Stranger, route to Karachi
I landed in Lahore from Doha and right away my next destination was Sargodha. In Daewoo Bus, a man sitting next to me gave me his British visa rejection letter (written in English) to tell him translation. The main highlights of that letter were:

• The man was declared a Lawyer with a certain monthly income in his visa application but his bank account transactions record was a bit suspicious for British embassy.
• British embassy was doubtful about how he would mange his living during his stay and showed their concern that he would slip inside UK as illegal immigrant.
• Any future visa application with similar application was most likely to be rejected.

I explained him about the idea of letter and he nodded his head in reply. He was termed Lawyer in the letter, so l was thinking why a qualified person would ask anyone for translation of a letter. Soon I found out that the document processor only showed him as lawyer which he was not in reality. By conversation I found out that, he was Desperate to get out of country by hook or by crook. He gave examples of his brother and other acquaintances who made impressive progress after getting abroad. I said “ What wonders a person would do abroad if he could not anything here in Pakistan”. He replied “A man would do anything abroad, we all have dreams for our children”. He was repeating that “There must be some wisdom from Allah(S.W.T) and I will find my way outside as I am trying my best” but the amazing aspect was that he was not concerned about the deception/fudging in papers at all. To avoid guilt afterwards, I conveyed the importance of avoiding foul play but with very less use. Fraud and Tawakkul side by side, Ahhh. He went on his own way and me on my own at the Bus station…

From Sargodha, I went to Faisalabad for a 1 day brief stay. I found unusual support for the ex-prime minister Nawaz Sharif who was on roads during that time. I was so surprised to see a complete difference in opinion where all issues related to him & his rally were somehow given favored shape by his supporters.

I had booked my tickets via Pakistan railways mobile application few weeks back, a good facility for train travelers. Journey from Faisalabad to Karachi through Karakoram Express was as smooth as a whistle. Hat’s off to railways management, keep doing good work.

Winning a Lucky Draw
Only after few days of stay in Karachi I received a phone call in which a person verified me my full name with NIC and mobile number and gave me good news of winning a Toyota 2017 GLi model. This was due to purchase of Sundar foods item during last year and filling a lucky draw form, back of the mind I was thinking I never filled such form. Anyhow, he further explained their presence in Pakistan forwarded me an sms asking to contact their manager within 3 days to claim my car. I never contacted them and they never came back thereafter. Why an Organization giving away such an expansive prize was unable to deliver it at my doorstep, a definite scam attempt spot-on exactly during my Pakistan visit.

Karachi, city of Garbage

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City of lights is now city of Garbage. I was most of time roaming around in Landhi-Korangi area. Most roads and streets were flooded with Sewage water, which become worst during raintimes; everywhere on the outskirts, garbage was present.  The shortest journey of 1.5 kms from my home to Babaer market was occupied with two dangerous ditches filled with sewerage water, vehicles had to slow down and proceed through the notched area and Motorcyclists were almost sure to get some dirt on their clothes.

Me and my wife somehow managed to survive and  passed through reasonable health condition but Kids were severely effected due to all the filth around. I had to make at least 10 visits to nearby Awadh Hospital. Awadh’s staff was also amazed at our situation and frequent visits/issues.

System is not working I Karachi. Governments sweepers and Garbage is scarce. Most areas are having privately managed garbage pickers. Even they get absent very often stopped by Party walay. What would Kachra Politics give to smart politicians?? ”Party Walay and Establishment” are two strange terms I am unable to fully understand since my childhood.

Heavy Rainfalls

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I saw perhaps the biggest Lightening and Thunderstorm during this visit. It was a contrast situation when it was raining. The residents of new houses were enjoying inside their cozy setups while the inmates of low levels houses were throwing water out with the help of buckets. There was no issues inside my new house but this difference of situation hit me quite deep down as I recalled my school days when me and my family had to do the same to throw water out of our home to save out appliances and other households. Above all cruel realities, innocent children were running from here to there in the street making a lot of fun and enjoying the rain time.

A night before EID when it was last heaviest rainfall of the stretch, I was in the Babar market for monthly shopping with family. It started raining when we were in the middle of the market. As we made our way out, water was flowing like a river. No Rickshaw or Taxi was ready to drop us, there were dozens people sorting out how to escape this situation. At last, I decided to move on my bike. I was quite confident on my Super Power 70 CC bike which once saved my in a similar situation from Defence to Landhi; but that time I was alone…I managed to start my bike but biggest problem was ponded water on road under which the uneven road and open manholes were hidden and you never knew what’s going to happened next. I switched ON all of my senses and followed the wheel path of vehicles ahead of me. Occasional thunder , heavy rain, haphazard traffic, wife and 2 kids doing their own things and above all all unseen and unexpected hazards ahead; it was one of scariest ride. At last we reached our home crossing all dangerous waters and/or rain mixed with sewage water with a fear factor of some broken live electricity wire…

K-Electric
In our area, scheduled load shedding is being practiced but during my visit K-electric showed all its hidden talent to us. Some days were normal load shedding, some days unexpected breakdown. A day was amazingly free of load shedding. There were shocks of 2-3 brief switch-offs on Eid’s 2nd day. Our old house which is vacant these days was labeled as “ Kunda Use along meter” on the Bill and I cannot explain amount of pain felt due to this thing as we have never done such a thing. Whose problem is to make fully recovery and avoid losses? What about those honest users who never steal electricity but face load shedding due to losses in their area? Such discriminant behavior must end soon!

Qurbani
I decided to only go to Mandi one day before EID and so was materialized when we moved from our home to Bhains Colony for Jaanwar Purchase. We were 7 people and got onto a messed up open to sky Suzuki. Cloudy weather and uneven roads made it like an adventurous Safari ride. Market rates were down due to rainfalls and we manged to purchase escape goats on reasonable prices. Qurbani was smooth, we cousins and family did justice with numerous goats on the day upto 2:00 pm before getting too tired. Area was free from any fear of snatching animal skin. Relevant people were gathering remains of animals. The painful thing was to do Qurbani in between sewage waters as gutters were overflowing everywhere. Young boys spent a lot of time in visiting Mandi, puchasing animals and taking care of them right till the end. They had to provide security Guard services too for the animals at night.

Government must make big slaughter houses to avoid hygienic issues emerging after the Qurbani. The Festivity, activities and mess Qurbani practiced in Pakistan is perhaps the one of its kind in the whole world. You can not imagine anyone doing private Qurbani at their homes elsewhere…

End of Trip
On last day, we attended a decent ceremony of Bismillah and Ameen of kids arranged by our cousin and his family. Similar to all passed years, I was once again saying good bye to loved ones with some cheerful memories sensing some unsaid words in their eyes, leaving some undone tasks; leaving my beloved country…

Whether I am back to reality or have I left reality; I do not know at this stage. Pakistan Zindabad, Hamehsa!

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Destructive topics in Pakistani Dramas!

“Reviewing current trend of unhealthy topics like Divorce and invitation for producing healthy dramas with strong topics!!!”
In my school days, there was a scenario in a drama named ‘Ye Zindagi’ featuring Nauman Aijaz and Mah Noor Baloch. After a brisk love marriage, the couple broke up soon after; however, after realizing this fatal mistake the husband suggested “Halalah” to his ex-wife. This was a new term for me and straight away I asked my father “Dad what is this Halalah?”. My father somehow handled my question and told that was just nothing…Remember, that time was almost ending period of golden Pakistani dramas. Indian dramas soon captured our market for quite a significant amount of time during early 2000’s. Pakistani drama then fought back its way lately and even influenced the Indian market due to some good dramas. This was indeed a good feeling for seasoned viewers of Pakistani dramas.
It has been noticed that our dramas are yet again falling behind of topics as most of the stories are circulating around the marriage issue of loving man and woman. These are filmed in very sophisticated locations/ homes but the inmates are displaying ultimate immoral attitude and filthy family politics. I have noticed that relationship of husband–wife in many current dramas is shown in complicated status which ends up in Divorce. The scene of fight and shooting 3 words of Talaq are shown often as if it’s a very normal thing and part of our society.

I can certainly recall that during my childhood days’, divorce was never too often discussed within sections of society but with the passage of time and influence of abundantly produced dramas; Divorce has become a very common topic. Remember this is most unlikeable Halal act in Islam. We can see the impacts of showing/discussing this topic as the lives of many media celebrities are very unstable and also the rate of divorce is rising within society. Young innocent minds are definitely catching up this and can practice it very well in their practical life without realizing the real consequences. The environment in which you live your life counts a lot for you and watching such topics certainly makes their place in sub-conscious of mind and can get you in such a situation where a minor conflict can result in fatal event of Divorce.Stop-Separation-and-Divorce-Problems

We have to be responsible in protecting this noble institution of marriage by influencing positive topics to flourish this relationship. Instead of complicated Husband-Wife relationships, why can’t we cover strong bond and examples of how they supported each other during times of financial crisis or in case of severe health problems? Every other day, we can see highlights of many brilliant stories of common Pakistanis on various social media platforms like “Humans of Pakistan”; we can make many dramas out of them. I cannot forget fantastic pictures/stories covered by Brandon Stenton of “Humans of New York” while he visited Pakistan back in 2015. Why not glorify our enthusiastic and most resilient people instead of showing cunning stories of disgrace and betrayal between them?

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Read More: HONY in Pakistan
https://msultanshah.com/2015/08/24/humans-of-new-york-restored-faith-in-humans-of-pakistan/

There are hundreds of genuine topics speared in the society including life cycle of overseas expatriate people and their families back home. Topics related with various ongoing army operations and their effects on related people.  Topics related to the success stories of un-known heroes may well be covered as pay back to them; this would certainly inspire others. We can cover lives of our forgotten heroes (and living heroes) from education, science, arts, armed forces and sports. Dramas can be made covering issues related with special children and their status in the society. Media can cover conditions of people related with various organizations such as Pakistan railways, PIA, Sui-Gas and private media itself to make people realize efforts and issues related to them and better understand their lives. Above all, on the education and training side; topics covering the ideology of Pakistan depicting true goals for which Pakistan was created must be shown as a national duty.
TV channels can invite and appreciate young authors for getting fresh out of the box stories. I am certain that different and genuine topics shall definitely grab more audience and shall certainly be equally or even more successful in the monetary terms as well. We can certainly work our way towards improving society by taking such steps.
Let’s realize the important of topics covered in our dramas and take a first step today!

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“TIP” that sinks the Ship! #55

“Despite of doing justice with work &caring for quality of service,often certain workers solely work for fetching extra money from clients”… 

There is trend in Qatar for giving away amounts of money to people involved with low paid jobs like taxi drivers,waiters, cleaners and barbers etc at the end of receiving their service. Usually these people do not ask their clients; they provide adequate service and its up to the customer to either give something additional or just go away.I have bad experienceat Barber shops where there is visible pressure of giving some TIP amount. After hair cutting or shave, they start to give un-necessary elongated final touches and also starts massage without asking. The customer usually getscompelled with this and gives some TIP thereafter. After roaming around and seeing lot of disturbing people, I settled with one barber who had just one bad habit i.e rather than deducting amount as per charge rate; he used to return change for the money note given by the customer asking them to give amount oftheir own will. Anyhow, I managed togo along with him after taking promise that he will deduct exact price of service and giving TIP would solely be on my discretion and I just forbid them to carry out massage after hair cut…

In 2014, we found a very gentle and seemingly holy lift operator on the Lahore Airport who started giving a lot of prayers and well wishes to me and my family. His style & voice were so touching and it seemed that his prayers were something special of us; I peculiarly gave him Rs.100. “What a nice man, I feel personally connected with him” I told my wife. Interesting after having lunchwe were returning close to the same lift again when we saw that same man blessing another family in a similar tone and affection. “Ahh so this was a professional thing not anything personal” we thought!

A recent journey enticed me to write this article. I had a chance of extensive traveling from Qatar to Pakistan and then back within about 30 hours and observed many faces of this forced TIP thing. Airport taxi service was having a tight schedule the day I reached Karachi and I had to take a yellow cab who overcharged by taking Rs. 950 and I had to go in a very bad conditioned taxi; so there was no question of any TIP. On the same day I went to Lahore and took a taxi from airport to Daewoo Bus stop. Driver was a sleepy,fat,seemingly lazy but witty character who recounted types of services he could provide including private travel between the cities of Punjab. At the end of journey, further to telling Rs100 extra (which ultimately was rectified by me) with respect to mileage he refused to accept Rs.50 TIP, he insisted on Rs.100 as according to him was a usual and must thing. I somehow managed to get rid of him giving away Rs.100.I had around 1 hour of waiting time at Daewoo stop’s waiting area; whenI used washroom, cleaner there was doing the similar duty i.e. offering toprovide special care to customers enticing for as much TIP as possibleAs I left washroom/ablution place, he presented Tissue Paper box like waiter style and honored me with a attentive army styled salute and obtained well deserved Rs.20. Daewoo travel from Lahore to Sargodha was a great one indeed commanded by a fine hostess who was in total control of proceedings and carried out a wonderful jobI specially thanked her for great effort. I again had to travel back within 2 hours but performance of  the hostess this time was nowhere near to the former one. “Doing justice with your duty is really scarce” I thought! Then I went to Lahore airport for finally traveling to Doha-Qatar; 2 converse examples were waiting for me there. After our baggage screening, while we went to the officer doing baggage inquiry. He asked about amount of money we had in our pockets to keep by Pakistani rule of maximum amount of money while on the move. “ I hardly have Rs. 1000-1200 and wife likewise”. “Alright open thatbag” he asked and while I was about to bring my bag he said “Why would you take so much headache,leave it Sir jee give us Rs.400-500 and go ahead”. This was something unexpected for me but I insisted to him to do his work and said” I am already short of cash and can not give you money”. “Alright then open your bag” he remarked and as I carried my bag down, he left us without checking. As we moved towards the Check-in counter, my wife saw him doing similar things with other customers as well. Authorities must check such black sheeps who do not obey their duties and leave the baggage without checking for Rs. 500 only or so. We can very well judge the opposite situation at foreign good airports where they treat families as preference and do not keep an eye on their pockets like this. Thereafter, when we went to the Polio Vaccination counter, we found a very nicely behaved gentleman who gave me a good advice as per his past experience to make vaccination certificate for myself despite of not staying for a month or more in Pakistan.

As per my experience/understanding, people would still continue giveaways to people involved with such jobs as we have majority of kind hearted customers understanding financial constraints involved with low-paid class. But having such behavior of fetching maximum out of the customer’s pocket and treating client as per expected amount of TIP wastes whole effort and ultimately loose goodwill of clients. Instead of pleasing the customer, such people become a headache for them and ultimately earning disrespect for their profession.

One of the main thing to curtail such behavior is that companies should take care of their employees maintaining rational wage standards and government must also take some measures to flourish balance in society. Various job related training programs can be arranged and moral training for on job behavior should be arranged for a pleasant dealing with customers. A well trained individual deserves to charge as per his/her standard and would certainly not be interested to pump extra payment. People complaining about bad reputation of particular professions should take a note of such teasing behavior which infiltrates earnings with dubiety.  

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PARTY… #PAKISTANZINDABAD #52

“Lets support the best political party in the world”
“And hold firmly to the rope of Allah all together and do not become divided”. (Sura Al-Imran,3:103)
For the past many years during Independence day a very common SMS is shared between Pakistanis viz “In 1947, a nation was searching for a country and today our country is searching for its nation”… I just can not forget that moment from August,2014 during first ‘Dharna days’ near Imran Khan’s Lahore residence where there was a canal in between the supporters of Imran Khan and Nawaz Sharif. All of them were carrying Pakistan flags and throwing stones at each other outrageously…  There is high need of finding whats went wrong in between creation of Pakistan and today’s mess!
All India Muslim league was formed in 1906 as a necessity to represent Muslims for united India against all odds and with sheer commitment, our forefathers were able to form beloved Pakistan for us. Until now, Pakistan remains a unique entity along-with Israel created on religious ideology. Unfortunately, we lost our founding father soon after independence while they were trying to set up a direction for a new born nation. Since then, we see lack of a comprehensive/visionary process to build nation.
At birth of Pakistan, there were not many political parties. Political parties started to emerge as constitution was put in place alongwith a democratic system of elections to run the country.As a result, today we see hundreds of parties having their own supporters against their rivals chanting variety of slogans all over the country. Political romances and breakups takes places as per situation and need of time.If today, 2 leaders are hugging each other; there is no guarantee of tomorrow.Similarly their supporters will either shake hands or deal with fists & kicks to the other side as per orders of their leader.
I have a firm belief that application of western democratic system in our society is a biggest mistake ever made and political parties are biggest obstacle to our national unity. I can openly challenge a happy family of 5 persons sitting on the same dinner table; if you start taking sides and supporting different parties and their leaders in your discussion; you surely will end up with outrage and argumentative fight. Such phenomenon is very much evident in daily talk shows. This is ‘jamhooriyat ka husn’ we are facing today.
Referring to a recent example when anti Pakistan speech was made by MQM chief, Pakistanis all over the world condemned it with a solid “Pakistan Zindabad” response. Pakistan Zindabad response is clearly evident whenever we win some world sport event or when faced by natural calamities like earthquake or floods. After the Peshawar APS tragedy the whole nation backed Pakistan army to achieve the incredible through operation Zab-e-Azb. Our best responses come when we act as Pakistanis.
Human beings live on earth in different groups; depending upon your intelligence/maturity level you can visualize as many sub divisions as possible. One party based on brotherhood was formed by our beloved prophet Muhammad (S.A.W.) by preaching Allah’s message to complete Islam. Religion surely was the biggest recognition and ideology at that time. Talking of today’s era, various nation states exits ,over 200 of them and there is a history attached to each nation state.
Nation states interact with each other at state diplomatic level , not on further sub division parties or tribes level. In united nations, heads of countries represent their nation as a whole not as fragments of their society. That’s how interests of a large group are being presented/defended in front of all other countries. I believe that nation states form realistic political parties representing their nations today.
Coming back to Pakistan, today we see dozens of political parties and hardly anyone of them carries a unanimous national respect. Parties in Pakistan mostly supported based on provincial, linguistic and ethnic basis. Notable individuals often form their own party to participate in so called Democratic process, forming a sub-group who feels they can bring Pakistan back on track and whose manifesto, flag and electoral sign is different from the other. Hence dividing a great nation into so many segments.
We can see intense debates on social media where supporters of one party just rips off other parties. Interestingly, when I pointed out few blunders of Imran khan on social media, one of my friend said “I have followed your posts since a long time, I know very well you are a supporter of PML(N); can’t you see what wonders Imran Khan is doing in KPK”. Believe me,it took some time after that friend was somewhat satisfied as I shared some critical posts regarding PML(N) and Nawaz Sharif. Overseas Pakistanis are considered all fans of Imran Khan and all living in Punjab are considered buddies of Nawaz Sharif. Interior Sindh’s population considered pro-PPP and generations of migrants from India are believed to be all supporters of MQM etc.
Lets take a deep breathe and imagine which party our army is working for; was it electoral democratic process that brought up GEM like General Raheel Sharif? Which party Pakistan cricket team is playing for? Which party are we representing on all International airports while carrying Green passports? Against which party our internal and external enemies working?  That single party is Pakistan. So why we further go down the hill. Is there any further need of any other flag after Green Flag? Why consider our own brothers and sisters our enemies based on Political/party affiliations?
So can’t we get rid of such things which makes us oppose each other?. Can not we stop opposing each other on party basis? Can we hold to that Party which binds us together? With a clear mind, one ideology, one identity; can we become die hard political workers of a much bigger and meaning full party that is our beloved PAKISAN!…After that its Allah’s will how he generate self cleansing process for our country…
Fellow Pakistanis must be mature enough to realize their binding forces, hold hands of each other so that we can have a different SMS during upcoming Independence days “Nation and Country stand together; NO POWER ON EARTH CAN UNDO PAKISTAN”…
“And hold firmly to the rope of Allah all together and do not become divided”. (Sura Al-Imran,3:103)
Article No.52
Please note thus article has been published on 26 August,2016 at following links:

Special cases need special attention! #51

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Last year on 18th September 2015, my sister in Law gave birth to quintuplets(5 kids at once including 3 boys and 2 girls) in C.M.H. Sialkot-Pakistan and this news was catched by almost each news channel. The family tried to keep this news as secret but the media somehow came to know about it and almost forcefully reported this as special news story of the day. News reporters were so desperate to win the breaking news race that some news channels reported false facts and figures. For example, a news channel reported 3 girls and 2 boys but in fact they were 3 boys and 2 Girls. They named childern’s father as Atif whereas his name was Asif. They reported that father of these babies was residing in Qatar but in reality he was living in Greece.One channel even promised that they will give special gift for these children but that promise was never honored.

The whole family was so happy but as the news spread around via TV, situation was somewhat difficult to handle. Few “Bay Awlaad” random people approached  this family and requested to give away 1 baby to them. An awkward scenario was created and was difficult to avoid.

Practically speaking, having 5 kids at once can shake budget of any typical family. And the same happened with this family as well; anyhow few family individuals came up to the cause and provided their best support realizing their responsibility towards this unusual situation. Soon-after one baby boy out of 5 passed away; now 2 kids are with their mother while 2 are being raised at maternal grandmother’s home.Worthy to mention, the baby boys have lately gone through eyes treatment due to ailment. While observing the whole episode; it was so painful to see the role of media and society as a whole who took it as a juicy news story but no one thinking as to what would happen thereafter? Nobody came forward to support this blessed family.

I have a very firm belief that special children and other special cases like the one discussed above arise due  to definite reasons; as exam for normal blessed human beings like most of us. Nature tests us to how we respond to the call of duty. How well we accommodate special cases within our society. We should play best possible role within our domains so that nobody feels lonely or dejected in this world.
Surprisingly,there have been quite a few cases of multiple child births lately in Pakistan. Government, news channels and related child products companies(making diapers,clothing,toys and Milk etc) should take initiative to provide support for at-least 2-3 years as a good will gesture. Providing few hundred thousands to people in need is like peanuts in comparison to huge amounts spent on advertisements. Later, they can add this work under their publicity campaigns which would certainly encourage others to get their act together for serving society at large. Such social issue does have an opportunity of community service and well being.

Particularly speaking regarding the news channels, I strongly feel that some boundaries need to be established as regards to respecting privacy of people. Big question is that “Is just reporting a story enough or do we need to go an extra mile to issues related with a particular story?”. Media may appeal and direct suggested measures/steps to related authorities and individuals.A grand review/followup TV program could be arranged at the end of month to review status of news reported in passed month. As an practicing Engineer, whenever we highlight any issues on our project, we always come up with probable solution or options of resolution. This must be trait in all other trades as well. Why can not our media adopt similar practice?

Apart from our professional routine life roles, we have a greater part to play towards the community; and you would definitely feel on a much higher ground after considering above suggestions affirmatively.

Article No.51

Please note thus article has been published on 11th June,2016 at following links:

Special cases need special attention

Special Cases need Special attention!