پاکستان کا سیاحتی سفر

پاکستان کا سیاحتی سفر

کئی سال کی پلاننگ کے بعد اس سال بالآخر ہم پاکستان میں سیاحت کے لیے نکل ہی گئے. میں بہت ہی پر جوش انداز میں 31 جولائی کو قطر سے پاکستان پہنچا. ان دنوں شدید بارشیں چل رہی تھیں لیکن الحمدللہ مجھے لاہور سے سرگودھا کے راستے میں بہت خوبصورت موسم ملا. بدقسمتی سے اسی دن موٹر سائیکل چلاتے ہوئے گرا اور بائیں بازو میں چوٹ لگ گئی . پھر بھی ہمت کر کے اگلے دن یعنی یکم اگست کو ہم سرگودھا سے اسلام آباد روانہ ہوگئے. اسلام آباد میں ہمیں میری اہلیہ کے بھائی علی نے جوائن کیا.اس موقع پر میں ، میری اہلیہ دو بچے اور علی شریکِ سفر تھے. ہم اسلام آباد سے سوات کیلئے روانہ ہوئے. سوات موٹروے پر چائے کے وقفہ کیلئے مختر قیام کیا اور مسحور کن منظر سے لطف اندوز ہوئے.

رات گئے بحرین (سوات) کے ایک ہوٹل میں قیام کیا. ہوٹل کے ساتھ بپھرا ہوا دریائے سوات دوڑ رہا تھا، اگلی صبح ہوٹل کی بالکونی سے یہ منظر دیکھنا انتہائی منفرد تجربہ تھا. تمام ہوٹلوں نے دریا کے ساتھ ہی پائپ لگا کر پانی کی فراہمی کا بندوبست کر رکھا تھا.انڈہ پراٹھہ، چنے وغیرہ کا روایتی ناشتہ کر کے ہم اپنی اگلی منزل کالام روانہ ہو گئے. ابھی نکلے ہوئے تھوڑی ہی دیر ہوئی تھی کہ ٹریفک جام کا سامنا کرنا پڑا. ایک یا غالباً دو ٹرک رک گئے تھے جس کی وجہ سے راستہ بند ہو چکا تھا اور پھر لوگوں نے بھی جلد بازی میں اپنی گاڑیاں مخالف سمت میں ڈال کر سب کو پھنسا دیا. اللہ اللہ کر کے چند متحرک لوگوں اور پولیس نے راستہ کھلوایا. راستے میں چند ایک جگہ رک کر تصویریں بنوائیں، جمعہ پڑھا اور قریباً دو بجے کالام پہنچ گئے اور ہوٹل پہنچ کر سامان رکھ دیا.

ہمارا اگلہ پوائنٹ مہوڈنڈ جھیل تھا، علی نے آناً فاناً وہاں جانے کیلئے فور وہیل گاڑی کا بندوبست کر لیا اور یوں ہم قریباً ساڑھے تین بجے روانہ ہو گئے. راستہ بہت خراب تھا اور سارا راستہ اللہ تعالیٰ کو یاد کرتے دعائیں پڑھتے گزرا. راستے میں ‘اصلی ٹراوٹ فش’ کے ایک پوائنٹ پر ایک کلو ٹراؤٹ بنانے کا آرڈر دیا کہ ہماری واپسی تک تیار کر رکھے. مغرب سے آدھ پون گھنٹہ پہلے جھیل پہنچے، وہاں کے مناظر واقعی قدرت کا شاہکار تھے.بچوں نے ہارس رائڈنگ کی اور ہم نے خوب تصویریں بنائیں. ٹھنڈے یخ چشمے سے وضو کیا اور نماز ادا کی. مہوڈنڈ جھیل کی ٹھنڈ کے ساتھ گرما گرم چائے نے مزہ دوبالا کر دیا .

رات کی سیاہی اپنا رنگ جما رہی تھی، دیو ہیکل پہاڑ کسی پہرے دار کی مانند ایستادہ کھڑے تھے، کڑاکے دار دریا اپنے جوبن پر تھا اور ہم واپسی کیلے روانہ ہوئے. ‘اصلی ٹراؤٹ’ کا کھانا کھایا، مچھلی واقعی بہت لذیز بنی تھی. اس دن پتہ چلا کہ ٹرؤٹ کو کانٹوں سمیت بھی کھا لیتے ہیں، یہ ہمارے لئے اپنی نوعیت کا پہلا تجربہ تھا. راستے میں گاڑی کا ڈرائیور ‘عاشق حسین’ اور اگلی سیٹ پر بیٹھا علی آپس میں لمبی گفتگو میں لگے ہوئے تھے، خوش گپیوں کی شدت کے درمیان کبھی کبھی عاشق حسین سٹئیرنگ چھوڑ کر اشارے سے بات کرتے ہوئے علی کی طرف دیکھتا اور ایسے میں، میں اور میری اہلیہ خوفزدہ نظروں سے ایک دوسرے کو دیکھنے لگتے.

راستے میں ہم نے دیکھا کہ مقامی بچے گزرتی گاڑیوں کے پیچھے لٹک کر جا رہے تھے، اسی طرح ایک بچہ ہماری گاڑی کے پیچھے بھی لٹک گیا. ڈرائیور نے گاڑی روک کر اسے ڈانٹا لیکن پھر ہمارے کہنے پر اسے گاڑی کے اندر بٹھا لیا. ڈرائیور نے اپنی زبان میں بچے سے کچھ باتیں کیں اور پھر ہمیں بتایا کہ یہ بچہ ابلے انڈے بیچتا ہے اور آج چار سو روپے کما کر واپس جا رہا ہے. یہ بچے اسی طرح آتی جاتی گاڑیوں کے پیچھے لٹک کر سفر کرتے ہیں. ہم یہ سوچنے لگے کہ زندگی بہت سے لوگوں پر کتنی سخت ہے اور کتنے خوش نصیب ہیں وہ لوگ جنہیں ہر طرح کی آسائش میسر ہے. میری اہلیہ نے اس بچے کو کچھ پیسےدینا چاہے تو اس نے قدرے جھجھکتے ہوئے غیر یقینی انداز میں لے لئے. بچہ راستے میں اپنے گھر پر اتر گیا.

راستے میں کئی طرح کے موضوع زیرِ بحث آئے، عاشق حسین نے قدرے محتاط انداز میں سوات کے خراب دنوں کا ذکر کیا. وہ آج کے حالات اور صورتحال سے بہت مطمئن تھا اور فخر سے بتا رہا تھا کہ آپ چاہے رات کے کسی پہر بھی باہر نکل جاؤ، کوئی آپ کو نظر اٹھا کر بھی نہیں دیکھے گا. عاشق حسین نے کالام داخل ہو کر وہاں کی ساڑھے تین سو سال پرانی تاریخی قدیم مسجد دکھائی جو لکڑی کی بنی تھی اور مرکزی دروازے پر انتہائی نفیس کام ہوا دکھائی دے رہا تھا.

کالام میں رات کے وقت سرکاری اسپتال میں، میں نے اپنا علاج کروانے کی کوشش کی تو اسوقت وہاں کوئی ڈاکٹر موجود نہ تھا اور سپورٹ اسٹاف کسی نا کسی طرح کام چلا رہا تھا. کوئی خاص انتظام موجود نا تھا، ان لوگوں نے مجھے انجیکشن لگانے کی پیشکش کی جو میں نے رد کر دی اور صرف پٹی کروانے پر ہی اکتفا کیا. اسی دوران ایک چھوٹی بچی وہاں لائی گئی تھی جس نے غلطی سے کیڑے مار دوا کھا لی تھی، اسکو وہاں ڈرپ لگا کر لٹایا ہوا تھا اور سب لوگوں کے چہرے اترے ہوئے تھے. سہولیات نہ ہونے کی وجہ سے کچھ زیادہ دیکھ بھال ممکن نا تھی. ناجانے اس بچی کا بعد میں کیا بنا ہو گا!

اگلی صبح ہم لوگ مالم جبہ کیلئے روانہ ہوئے. راستے میں جگہ جگہ روڈ کا تعمیراتی کام چل رہا تھا. راستے میں چند ایک جگہ رک کر تصویریں بنائیں. بحرین میں عصر کی نماز ادا کی اور پھر مالم جبہ کی طرف دوبارہ روانہ ہوگئے. مالم جبہ جانے والی سڑک ہماری توقع کے بر خلاف عموماً بہت اچھی تھی. راستے میں جگہ جگہ مقامی بچے سیاحتی گاڑیوں کے پیچھے پیچھے بھاگ کر تازہ ناشپاتیاں بیچنے کی کوشش کر رہے تھے. ٹاپ پر پہنچنے سے اندازاً 11 کلومیٹر قبل ہم ایک چھوٹی دکان نما ہوٹل پر رکے. دکان پر سب بچے بچے ہی موجود تھے، ہماری فرمائش پر بڑے بچے نے دودھ پتی تیار کی اور کیک بسکٹس کے ساتھ پیش کی. اس دوران بچیاں اور چھوٹے بچے شرمیلے انداز میں چھپ کر ہمیں دیکھتے رہے. ہمیں بالکل ٹی وی ڈراموں والے سین یاد آ گئے. تھوڑی ہی دیر میں ان بچوں کے نانا آ گئے اور ہمیں اپنےگھرانے کے بارے میں بتانے لگے. جب ہم نے اس سے پیسے پوچھے تو اس نے کہا کہ ُرہنے دو ٗ. بہرحال ہم نے اصرار کر کے اسے قیمت ادا کی اور انکے خلوص کی گرم جوشی لیے آگے بڑھ گئے.

ٹاپ سے کچھ پہلے کا راستہ کافی خراب تھا. ہم جب مالم جبہ چیئر لفٹ پر پہنچے تو لفٹ کا ٹائم ختم ہو گیا تھا. وہیں سے ہوٹل کرنے کیلئے واپس مڑے، رش ہونے کی وجہ سے ہوٹل روم عجلت میں بک کر لیا. مالم جبہ میں ہوٹلنگ اور کھانے کا معیار بلند کرنے کی اشد ضرورت ہے. اس سارے دورانیے میں پشتون بھائیوں کی فراخ دلی اور گرم جوشی نے بہت متاثر کیا، ان جگہوں کے لوگ بہت اچھے ہیں، آ پ ضرور ان علاقوں میں جائیے.

اگلے دن ناشتے سے فارغ ہو کر اندازاً 10 بجے ہم مالم جبہ چیئر لفٹ پوائنٹ پر پہنچ گئے، ابھی لفٹ شروع ہونے میں تھوڑا وقت تھا، ہم نے وہاں بیٹھ کر وقت گزارنا شروع کر دیا .

میں نے وہاں بیٹھ کر ذرا غور کیا تو آس پاس بہت سے مقامی بچے بکھرے تھے اور سیاحوں کی توجہ حاصل کرنے کی کوشش کر رہے تھے، کوئی ابلے انڈے بیچ رہا تھا تو کوئی ٹافیاں اور کوئی ٹورسٹ بنا ہوا تھا. اتنے سارے پھولوں کو دیکھ کر دل بہت بوجھل ہو گیا اور آنکھوں میں نمی! پڑھنے لکھنے کی عمر میں زندگی ان معصوموں سے کیا کام لے رہی تھی اور ان کے زریعے صاحبِ اقتدار اور صاحبِ استطاعت لوگوں کو کیسے آزما رہی تھی.اگر آپکو راستے میں کوئی پھول گرا ہوا نظر آجائے تو اسے اٹھا کر سائے میں رکھ دیجئے، اگر یہ نہیں کر سکتے تو اس سے کترا کر آگے بڑھ جائیں… لیکن خدارا کسی پھول کو پاؤں تلے نہ روند کر نکل جائیں…کسی کے پھولوں کو رولنے سے پہلے اپنے پھولوں کا ضرور سوچئے!

اسی دوران ایک مقامی بچے ‘شعیب اللہ’ نے ہمیں اپنی خدمات پیش کیں اور ہمیں گھمانے ایک قریبی مقام گرین ویلی لے گیا. وہ ہر کام کرنے کیلئے تیار تھا مثلاً پانی کی بوتل بھی مجھے پکڑا دو، اپنی جیکٹ بھی مجھے دے دو وغیرہ وغیرہ. شعیب الل بمشکل 8-9 سال کا بچہ تھا اور قد میں میرے 5 سالہ بڑے بیٹے سے بمشکل تھوڑا ہی بڑا تھا لیکن انتہائی مہارت سے پر پیچ راستے سے گزارتا ہوا گرین ویلی لے گیا.

گرین ویلی ایک چھوٹا سر سبز میدان تھا جہاں بچوں کیلئے جھولے اور سلائیڈز لگی ہوئی تھیں. وہاں سے واپس گیلے راستے اور کھائیوں سے بچتے بچاتے واپس آئے اور چئیر لفٹ پر سوار ہو گئے، شعیب اللہ بھی ہمارے ساتھ ہی اوپر چلا آیا.

علی اور شعیب اللہ کی بہت اچھی جم رہی تھی. کچھ لوگ اس مقام سے اور آگے سیڑھیاں چڑھ کر جا رہے تھے. ہم نے شعیب اللہ کو معاوضہ دے کر فارغ کیا، اسی دوران میں نے ایک آدمی کو مسکراتے دیکھا جو کہ بچے کو کمائی ملتے دیکھ کر خوش ہو رہا تھا! اس مقام پر ہم نے خوب تصویریں بنائیں، واپس آ کر ہوٹل سے اپنا سامان اٹھایا اور واپس روانہ ہوگئے.

ہماری اگلی منزل مری تھی. راستے کی خوبصورتی انجوائے کرتے، تصویریں بناتے ہم اسلام آباد پہنچے.

علی نے ہمیں شاہ فیصل مسجد، پارلیمنٹ ہاوس اور سپریم کورٹ کی عمارتیں دکھائیں. ہم ان عمارتوں کے عین سامنے سے گزرے، سنسان سڑک پر ہو کا عالم تھا لیکن حیران کن طور پر ہمیں کسی نے نہ روکا. ہم شہرِ اقدار میں موجود تھے جہاں موجود صاحبِ اقتداروں نے ایک نظریاتی ملک کے ساتھ کیا کچھ نہیں کر ڈالا تھا.. اللہ تعالیٰ کی بیش بہا نعمتوں کے باوجود بد نیتی، نا اہلی اور بد انتظامی کے باعث کتنے ہی لوگ اپنے گھروں سے دور غیر ممالک میں حصولِ روزگار کے لئے مجبور ہیں. اسلام کے نام پر ملک کا حصول اور پھر اپنے رب سے دھوکہ دہی، شدید وعدہ خلافیاں جنہوں نے ناجانے کنتی بے چارگیوں کو جنم دیا اور قوم کے خواب بکھیر کر رکھ دئیے…میں ان ہی سوچیوں میں گم تھا. کچھ وقت گزارنے، کھانا کھانے کے بعد ہم رات گئے مری چلے گئے.

مری میں اگلی صبح ناشتے کی میز پر ایک انتہائی معمر صاحب جن کی عمر غالباً ستر سال یا پھر کچھ زیادہ ہو گی، ان کو ٹیبلوں پر کھانا سرو کرتے ہوئے دیکھا. نا جانے کون سی مجبوری ان سے یہ کام کروا رہی تھی!

علی کے ایک دوست وقاص صاحب اپنی گاڑی میں لے کر ہمیں گھمانے نکلے. پنڈی پوائنٹ اور کشمیر پوائنٹ دیکھا اور کچھ دیر نتھیا گلی گھومے. نتھیا گلی میں عجب حسنِ اتفاق ہوا کہ دوحہ میں ہمارے ایک جاننے والے سرور صاحب سے ملاقات ہو گئی. اسکے علاوہ ایوبیہ بھی گئے.

مری کی سڑکوں پر مری کا مخصوص موسم محسوس کیا یعنی بادلوں، پہاڑوں اور درختوں کی تال میل اور بیچ بیچ میں ہلکی ہلکی بارش جو کہ ہم جیسے شہریوں کیلئے انتہائی راحت کا باعث ہوتا ہے.

دورانِ سفر ہم نے چولہے پر پکی تازہ دودھ سے بنی چائے کی تلاش کی جو نہ ملی.اس بات کا تذکرہ جب وقاص بھائی سے کیا تو انہوں نے فوراً کہا ‘ یہاں تازہ دودھ کی چائے ملنا مشکل ہے، کل میں صبح آپ کیلئے تازہ دودھ لے آؤں گا اور آپ یہاں کسی بھی ریسٹورنٹ میں دے کر چائے بنوا لیجیے گا.’ حیران کن طور پر وہ اگلے دن اپنے وعدے کے مطابق دودھ لے بھی آئے اور ہم نے بہترین چائے بنوا کر پی. شکریہ وقاص بھائی!

رات کو مشہورِ زمانہ مال روڈ گھومے اور مختصر شاپنگ کی. مری میں بھی دکان داروں کا رویہ اچھا پایا.

مری میں آخری دن ہم نے مری جی پی او میں موجود بک شاپ سے کچھ کتابیں لیں. سہ پہر کو ہم پنڈی پوائنٹ کی چیئر لفٹ گئے اور انتہائی خوبصورت مناظر انجوائے کئے. چیئر لفٹ جب اونچائی کی جانب اپنے اسٹاپ کے قریب پہنچی تو نیچے چند فوٹو گرافروں نے 100 روپے فی تصویر کی آوازیں لگائیں اور لوگوں کے حامی بھرنے پر دھڑا دھڑ تصویریں بنانے لگے اور پھر بھاگتے ہوئے اوپر اپنی شاپ پر پہنچ گئے اور لوگوں کی پسند کی تصویریں بنانے لگے. ہم نے جس لڑکے سے تصویریں بنوائیں وہ بمشکل 16-18 سال کا تھا اور اوپر پہنچ کر اسکا چہرہ لال، ماتھے پر پسینہ اور سانس پھولا ہوا تھا. واقعی کچھ لوگوں کیلئے حصولِ روزگار کتنا مشکل ہوتا ہے..

وہاں ٹاپ پر ہم نے بچوں کو ہارس رائڈنگ کروائی. میں نے دونوں بچوں کو ایک سفید گھوڑے پر سوار کروا دیا تو ایک اور گھوڑا بان جس کے پاس گہرے رنگ کا گھوڑا تھا وہ بھی آگیا اور گھڑ سواری کیلئے اصرار کرنے لگا. جب اس نے بہت اصرار کیا تو میں نے ایک بچہ اسکے گھوڑے پر بھی سوار کروا دیا. بہت دکھی لہجے میں کہنے لگا ‘صاحب یہ جو میرے پاس گھوڑا ہے یہ زیادہ اچھی نسل کا ہے پر کالا ہے لیکن لوگ نسل کا فرق نہیں سمجھتے اور سفید گھوڑا پسند کرتے ہیں ، مجھ سے بڑی غلطی ہوئی مجھے بھی سفید ہی گھوڑا لینا چاہیے تھا.’ پھر خود ہی کہنے لگا کہ جو نصیب میں رزق ہے وہ تو ضرور ملے گا. میں اسے تسلی دے کر اپنی فیملی کے ساتھ رخصت ہو گیا. کیسی کیسی داستانیں بکھری ہیں ہمارے آس پاس !

ڈھلتی شام کے وقت پنڈی پوائنٹ کی چئیر لفٹ میں سواری کرتے ہوئے قدرتی حسین جنگل کے بیچوں بیچ گزرنا، حشرات اور دیگر پرندوں کی آوازیں بہت شاندار تجربہ رہا.

مری میں بھی میں نے مرکزی سرکاری ہسپتال سے علاج کروانے کی کوشش کی. ڈاکٹر صاحب کی حالت قابلِ رحم تھی، وہ تقریباً جھوم رہے تھے اور ایسا لگ رہا تھا کہ کسی بھی لمحے گرِ جائیں گے. شاید تھکن کی وجہ سے ایسا ہو یا پھر وہ تھے ہی ایسے واللہ عالم! اسوقت ہسپتال میں ایک خاتون کا ‘آپریشن’ چل رہا تھا اور اسٹاف کی بد حواس حالت بتا رہی تھی کہ ‘کیسا آپریشن’ چل رہا ہے. مجھے ڈاکٹر نے ایکسرے لکھ کر دیا اور جب میں متعلقہ جگہ پہنچا تو وقت ختم ہو گیا اور یہاں سے بھی بغیر علاج کے ہی لوٹنا پڑا.

اگست کی سات تاریخ کو مری سے واپسی ہوئی. ہم نے راولپنڈی، سرگودھا اور فیصل آباد میں مختصر قیام کیا اور وہاں سے عید کیلئے کراچی آ گئے .اس دوران احباب نے ہمیشہ کی طرح بہترین مہمان نوازی کی اور ہر طرح ساتھ دیا. اللہ تعالیٰ سب کے رزق میں برکت عطا فرمائے، آمین.

بلا شبہ سفر ایک بہترین استاد ہوتا ہے جیسا کہ چند واقعات اوپر درج کئے گئے ہیں. یہ اور اسکے علاوہ بہت سے چھوٹے چھوٹے تجربات بہت کچھ سکھا جاتے ہیں. دورانِ سفر ڈرائیوروں سے آپ کو بہت حیران کن واقعات سننے کو ملتے ہیں. پاکستان کے سیاحتی مقام بہت خوبصورت ہیں، انکو مزید ڈویلوپ کرنے کی ضرورت ہے خصوصاً روڈ کے اردگرد حفاظتی اقدامات اور موثر طبی سہولیات کی فراہمی اشد ضروری ہے. سوات کالام، مالم جبہ اور مری کا ہمارا یہ سفر بہت زبردست رہا، بالخصوص لوگوں کی سادگی اور کھلے پن نے بہت متاثر کیا. آپ کو بھی موقع ملے تو اپنا ملک ضرور گھومنے نکلیں ساتھ ہی یہ کوشش بھی کریں کہ بہت زیادہ خطرناک راستوں پر نا جائیں ، الل تعالیٰ سب کا حافظ و ناصر ہو!

“Conventional society and free Social Media”

“Conventional society and free Social Media”

Neither everything is meant to be shared nor everyone deserve to know everything about you…Specially your personal life!!!

We human beings live among various social circles. The closest blood relationships with parents, our siblings then relatives, neighbors and acquaintances, class fellows and work fellows as well. As a matter of fact, our behavior/attitude within each of our social circle is different; the level of closeness, esteem and frankness varies from one group to the other. Not everything could be commonly shared between these social circles. Our maturity level and treatment to various people also gets advanced with age. Whereas Social media keeps everyone at the same level giving the equal opportunities to all without the distinctions just explained, everyone is a ‘friend’ on social media. In my humble opinion, there can never be such a separation of our relationships levels on social media due to its domain, which is an un-natural thing.

Social media has revolutionized the process of human interaction and wonders can happen with a touch of finger. In our daily lives today, we often give references of events encountered on the social media posts and discussions undergone on various topics. Whole world can look into what you have shared and what are your views. However, most of us are not very good in setting up our privacy up to reasonable extent thus live vulnerable online life. Therefore, the amount of damage is immeasurable due to unintended mistakes. Even if you setup privacy, you can never be sure of how far your activities may reach!

Today, we share our social gatherings with friends and families. We cannot travel without sharing updated status, we have to tell the whole world what food we are eating, where and with whom to digest it properly. All of this is meaningless to many others but they have access to all our personal activities. What is the need of showing your new house or expansive car to the whole world? What about those who cannot afford to travel, or eat such expansive food. Why post fake smiles, who are we making fool?

Most crucial part comes in when people share their family lives. Is there really a need of sharing wedding pictures of you and your extended family with everyone? Sharing honeymoon travel and pictures, is it obligatory? Personal relationships between Husband and wife are an extremely private thing; today why people forget this and share private pictures and emotions openly. Above all, facing various questions even from irrelevant persons about your personal life, which could be avoided if you had use the sharing buttons wisely. Are likes that much important to us? I am unable to understand why people expose their life partners to the whole world. One of the issues of sharing too much can be that you are providing people with chances to comment on your personal lives. When you are sharing your happy lives openly, bear in mind that the factor of “Nazr-e-Badd”/ jealousy also comes into play as a bitter reality.

One related thing that comes into mind is that free-mixing was never that easy before which now has new dimensions. Even stranger Male and Females can add each other, talk freely; you can see anyone personal pictures and videos as they upload their stories. Often same people in real life claim to be preserving to strangers and obeying veil while on street; they should think for a second that their pictures and videos can also damage their modesty and could go in hands the exploiters. Up to 1990’s it was considered an out of world thing to get a picture or number of girls but now both things are available on fingertips. Have the moral values of society changed altogether?

That reticence/parda between our various social circles is very important and should be kept in mind while doing anything on social media. I know many of wise people who are very selective in what they share and some do not share even a single-family picture on social media channels. Some people have even left this online world to live a content life with their family. Technology has given us chances to keep our things more private such as sharing the personal items within relevant groups through WhatsApp messenger, which is far better than sharing it openly and loudly on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter.

My sincere suggestion to all is that please think many times before you share. Do not expose yourself too much because you never know real intentions of others; please do not become a joke. Although Facebook has introduced blocking options but I have experience that this is not helpful all the time because all of your contacts would not have applied same filters. The media entices you to share your feelings and you can become a prey anytime to share un-necessary items. It easy to share but it’s almost difficult to wipe out our your web footprint. Preserving our cultural values should be an integral part of our efforts for a safe future.

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QASUR CHILD ABUSE CASE: HIGH TIME TO CHANNELIZE A FRUSTRATED SOICETY

QASUR CHILD ABUSE CASE: HIGH TIME TO CHANNELIZE A FRUSTRATED SOICETY

Sexual crimes of different nature have been a factor of Pakistani society which leaves us in a state of shock from time to time. Latest event been rape and murder of Qasur’s innocent Zainab. Lot has been said on this issue and as I write these lines, her murderer is still unknown. This will soon become a story of past, people will again get busy in their own lives until another such event takes place (Allah forbid). It is a fact that only those effected can feel the real pain and all others are mere commentators.

However, if we think sensibly it is an issue for all of us. Moral decline and frustration is on the rise. Every now and then, we hear events of Sexual Harassment, rape of innocent women and in worst cases our little angels are effected. There have even some cases of men abused by some ambitious women. Adultery (of all forms) being considered a smaller crime compared to former ones. If a diagnosis is carried out, we will find out that roots of all such acts are same. If we really want to solve these issues, then we need to really analyze this and implement solutions to root out such awful acts. Human being carry 3 fundamental urges 1) Urge to Live, 2) Urge to Pleasure and 3) Urge to Power. Here the issue is with elements of ‘Urge to Pleasure’, which has not been dealt appropriately in our society.

Talking on this issue is a Taboo, which needs to be broken at this point of time if not at a later stage. Damage control needs to be done.

Lack of correct information

In my opinion, people are not been fed with knowledge about this desire/urge and how to fulfil it. Adding to that, the overall atmosphere of society is also not monitored which adds to confusion and frustration of people leading to such events.

Children are not made aware of probable issues that they might face in this regard. However as the child grows up, his/her body is developed with related emotions. Adding to lack of correct information, he finds bold scenes in the movies and dramas. His/her desires gets a peak with the passage of time. He/she receive information from his/her colleagues or available information from other sources such as internet. Due to lack of formal guidance, many people consider themselves as severely infected and fight undue psychological pressures. Proper knowledge is never conveyed to them.

Sexual Harassment as topic was covered by one of our valiant University teacher which was largely skipped by female students. We also attended with a sense of shyness but it was worthy sessions, which opened our eyes to many issues along with their solutions. There was no indecency involved within those lectures in fact we were given real life examples for sexual harassment. That was first and last formal information that I received in life.

Vulgarity in media

Women is used as a show piece to attract customers. Bold advertisements, dressing of women and the content topics are irresponsibly handled. Such dreamy situations is contrary to situation on ground and takes a person to a different world in which controlling their thoughts and emotions become even a bigger test. Mini cinemas and internet are easily accessible to the young boys where their minds are infiltrated with such dirty things. Within many of the Investigation programs, the topics of sexual harassment and male-female affairs are telecasted irresponsibly giving them a wrong lesson at large.

Nikah (Marriage)

Today, getting married has become very difficult, as people have lifted their demands to sky limits. Useless norms and traditions like Mehndi, Dholki and Dowery etc have made it difficult for a normal person to get married. I know a person who was not initiating his life partner search as he was first targeting to gather Rs.10 lacs and it took another about 1.5 years when he achieved 10 lacs; this is so unfair due to peer pressures. Multiple marriage is considered as a crime. These difficulties often end up in opening doors of adultery/sex crimes within people.

Involvement of Powerful People

During Qasur’s child abuse case, a couple of years back, involvement of some really powerful people was found as reported by media. That story got refreshed this time but it’s yet to reach its logical conclusion.

Some people shamelessly try to forces working ladies in doing questionable acts as part of blackmailing using their seat and influence. Lately, news channels have revealed such mean people.

TO DO’S

Islamic Teachings

We need to be very clear in our approach. At one place we claim to be Muslims and nationals of an Islamic state but at the other place shy away when anybody talks about obeying Islam and implementing Islamic Laws. Fahashi (Vulgarity) is one of main topics of Quran. Allah (S.W.T.) sets clear principles of Parda (veil) and other measures to avoid ultimate incident of Zina (Infidelity).

“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do. “ ( An-Noor, Chapter #24, Verse #30) (Ref #1)

We take reference from Hadith regarding fundamental teachings of Islam to avoid Zina (Adultery)

Narrated Ibn `Abbas:

I did not see anything so resembling minor sins as what Abu Huraira said from the Prophet, who said, “Allah has written for the son of Adam his inevitable share of adultery whether he is aware of it or not: The adultery of the eye is the looking (at something which is sinful to look at), and the adultery of the tongue is to utter (what it is unlawful to utter), and the innerself wishes and longs for (adultery) and the private parts turn that into reality or refrain from submitting to the temptation.”

Reference: Sahih al-Bukhari 6612

In-book reference: Book 82, Hadith 18

USC-MSA web (English) reference : Vol. 8, Book 77, Hadith 609

(Deprecated numbering scheme)

(Ref #2)

Strict Islamic Laws must placed in the society. Making an example out of such people will serve the cause by inducing fear.

Ulema (Islamic Scholors) should address the causes and effects of such issues. In Zainab’s case as well; I was wondering where all of those big names hiding out and not giving any guidance statement to millions of their followers. Most of us are not aware about the composition of human body (material and spiritual aspects) and how to stream lines requirements associated with our being as per teachings of Islam. Everyone should make effort to get used to of Islamic practices in this regard.

Our Nation needs a Sex Vaccination

Like vaccines are provided for various diseases ,like the war strategy is made , like controlling the law and order ; sexual issues must be taken up as well. Some suggestions listed are listed below:

  • Indulgence of proper knowledge among growing children and awareness of how to react in case any such enticement is there by an offender. Basic information regarding human body, Male-Female couple relationship to be clearly conveyed to avoid un-necessary curiosity/uncertainty in young generation’s mind. Father can tell his son and mother can tell her daughter regarding this. Furthermore, separate Boys-Girls class sessions can be designed in which message appropriate to a certain age group can be conveyed wisely.
  • Easy weddings to be promoted and useless practices like Mehndi, Dholki and other non-Islamic functions to be curtailed which will reduce the load on masses especially low income class. Encouraging unmarried people to get married via collective marriages.
  • Multiple marriage for men is considered a sin in our society; we are in a state of denial on this issue which can become a tool to give support to thousands of unmarried women.
  • Media must be responsible as regards to content they air. Ladies specially must be cautious regarding their get up.
  • Reaching out the explicit content to be made as difficult as possible with technology and severe punishments.
  • Doctors and psychologists need to come forward with articles and short videos to provide basic sex education to masses.
  • Why child abuse cases are hitting Qasur so hard? this should be seriously researched out. Also to other notorious parts of country infected by such ailments needs to be addressed.

Current system and government is most likely not to take this up seriously. Severity of such issues calls for an immediate action adopting solutions like above in our daily lives. We need to be proactive & aggressive to deal with problems as regards to sexual needs like we carry out arrangements for our living (food, clothes and shelter). This will surely bring a huge drop in the sexual crimes and making our society a better place.

References:

Ref#1    : https://www.searchtruth.com/chapter_display.php?chapter=24&translator=5#30

Ref#2    : https://sunnah.com/bukhari/82

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Article No:60

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Pakistan Visit, 2017 

Pakistan Visit, 2017 

                                                          From diaries of an expat

After living about Nine years abroad, I recently finished yet another annual visit to Pakistan and as usual it left many impressions.

Meeting a Stranger, route to Karachi
I landed in Lahore from Doha and right away my next destination was Sargodha. In Daewoo Bus, a man sitting next to me gave me his British visa rejection letter (written in English) to tell him translation. The main highlights of that letter were:

• The man was declared a Lawyer with a certain monthly income in his visa application but his bank account transactions record was a bit suspicious for British embassy.
• British embassy was doubtful about how he would mange his living during his stay and showed their concern that he would slip inside UK as illegal immigrant.
• Any future visa application with similar application was most likely to be rejected.

I explained him about the idea of letter and he nodded his head in reply. He was termed Lawyer in the letter, so l was thinking why a qualified person would ask anyone for translation of a letter. Soon I found out that the document processor only showed him as lawyer which he was not in reality. By conversation I found out that, he was Desperate to get out of country by hook or by crook. He gave examples of his brother and other acquaintances who made impressive progress after getting abroad. I said “ What wonders a person would do abroad if he could not anything here in Pakistan”. He replied “A man would do anything abroad, we all have dreams for our children”. He was repeating that “There must be some wisdom from Allah(S.W.T) and I will find my way outside as I am trying my best” but the amazing aspect was that he was not concerned about the deception/fudging in papers at all. To avoid guilt afterwards, I conveyed the importance of avoiding foul play but with very less use. Fraud and Tawakkul side by side, Ahhh. He went on his own way and me on my own at the Bus station…

From Sargodha, I went to Faisalabad for a 1 day brief stay. I found unusual support for the ex-prime minister Nawaz Sharif who was on roads during that time. I was so surprised to see a complete difference in opinion where all issues related to him & his rally were somehow given favored shape by his supporters.

I had booked my tickets via Pakistan railways mobile application few weeks back, a good facility for train travelers. Journey from Faisalabad to Karachi through Karakoram Express was as smooth as a whistle. Hat’s off to railways management, keep doing good work.

Winning a Lucky Draw
Only after few days of stay in Karachi I received a phone call in which a person verified me my full name with NIC and mobile number and gave me good news of winning a Toyota 2017 GLi model. This was due to purchase of Sundar foods item during last year and filling a lucky draw form, back of the mind I was thinking I never filled such form. Anyhow, he further explained their presence in Pakistan forwarded me an sms asking to contact their manager within 3 days to claim my car. I never contacted them and they never came back thereafter. Why an Organization giving away such an expansive prize was unable to deliver it at my doorstep, a definite scam attempt spot-on exactly during my Pakistan visit.

Karachi, city of Garbage

garbage

City of lights is now city of Garbage. I was most of time roaming around in Landhi-Korangi area. Most roads and streets were flooded with Sewage water, which become worst during raintimes; everywhere on the outskirts, garbage was present.  The shortest journey of 1.5 kms from my home to Babaer market was occupied with two dangerous ditches filled with sewerage water, vehicles had to slow down and proceed through the notched area and Motorcyclists were almost sure to get some dirt on their clothes.

Me and my wife somehow managed to survive and  passed through reasonable health condition but Kids were severely effected due to all the filth around. I had to make at least 10 visits to nearby Awadh Hospital. Awadh’s staff was also amazed at our situation and frequent visits/issues.

System is not working I Karachi. Governments sweepers and Garbage is scarce. Most areas are having privately managed garbage pickers. Even they get absent very often stopped by Party walay. What would Kachra Politics give to smart politicians?? ”Party Walay and Establishment” are two strange terms I am unable to fully understand since my childhood.

Heavy Rainfalls

rainfall

I saw perhaps the biggest Lightening and Thunderstorm during this visit. It was a contrast situation when it was raining. The residents of new houses were enjoying inside their cozy setups while the inmates of low levels houses were throwing water out with the help of buckets. There was no issues inside my new house but this difference of situation hit me quite deep down as I recalled my school days when me and my family had to do the same to throw water out of our home to save out appliances and other households. Above all cruel realities, innocent children were running from here to there in the street making a lot of fun and enjoying the rain time.

A night before EID when it was last heaviest rainfall of the stretch, I was in the Babar market for monthly shopping with family. It started raining when we were in the middle of the market. As we made our way out, water was flowing like a river. No Rickshaw or Taxi was ready to drop us, there were dozens people sorting out how to escape this situation. At last, I decided to move on my bike. I was quite confident on my Super Power 70 CC bike which once saved my in a similar situation from Defence to Landhi; but that time I was alone…I managed to start my bike but biggest problem was ponded water on road under which the uneven road and open manholes were hidden and you never knew what’s going to happened next. I switched ON all of my senses and followed the wheel path of vehicles ahead of me. Occasional thunder , heavy rain, haphazard traffic, wife and 2 kids doing their own things and above all all unseen and unexpected hazards ahead; it was one of scariest ride. At last we reached our home crossing all dangerous waters and/or rain mixed with sewage water with a fear factor of some broken live electricity wire…

K-Electric
In our area, scheduled load shedding is being practiced but during my visit K-electric showed all its hidden talent to us. Some days were normal load shedding, some days unexpected breakdown. A day was amazingly free of load shedding. There were shocks of 2-3 brief switch-offs on Eid’s 2nd day. Our old house which is vacant these days was labeled as “ Kunda Use along meter” on the Bill and I cannot explain amount of pain felt due to this thing as we have never done such a thing. Whose problem is to make fully recovery and avoid losses? What about those honest users who never steal electricity but face load shedding due to losses in their area? Such discriminant behavior must end soon!

Qurbani
I decided to only go to Mandi one day before EID and so was materialized when we moved from our home to Bhains Colony for Jaanwar Purchase. We were 7 people and got onto a messed up open to sky Suzuki. Cloudy weather and uneven roads made it like an adventurous Safari ride. Market rates were down due to rainfalls and we manged to purchase escape goats on reasonable prices. Qurbani was smooth, we cousins and family did justice with numerous goats on the day upto 2:00 pm before getting too tired. Area was free from any fear of snatching animal skin. Relevant people were gathering remains of animals. The painful thing was to do Qurbani in between sewage waters as gutters were overflowing everywhere. Young boys spent a lot of time in visiting Mandi, puchasing animals and taking care of them right till the end. They had to provide security Guard services too for the animals at night.

Government must make big slaughter houses to avoid hygienic issues emerging after the Qurbani. The Festivity, activities and mess Qurbani practiced in Pakistan is perhaps the one of its kind in the whole world. You can not imagine anyone doing private Qurbani at their homes elsewhere…

End of Trip
On last day, we attended a decent ceremony of Bismillah and Ameen of kids arranged by our cousin and his family. Similar to all passed years, I was once again saying good bye to loved ones with some cheerful memories sensing some unsaid words in their eyes, leaving some undone tasks; leaving my beloved country…

Whether I am back to reality or have I left reality; I do not know at this stage. Pakistan Zindabad, Hamehsa!

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Pushups Controversy, please do not kill our Inner Child! #54

Pushups Controversy, please do not kill our Inner Child! #54

In this troubled world, there are fewer moments of joy left for public. Sports are always considered a healthy activity and teams dominating sports become source of lifting their people. After decline of many sports in Pakistan, cricket now remains as sole source of entertainment which is followed from all segments of our society. Dipped with premium performance; when our cricketers smile, we all smile with them. We have often seen our cricketers doing Sajda after achieving centuries,5 wickets hauls and victories. We all got electrified when Waqar Younis used to celebrate clean bowleds in his own roaring way. We all got that bird’s feeling while Shoaib Akhter celebrated his wickets spreading both arms like a bird. Shahid Afridi’s own style of standing with raised open arms became very popular all over the world.

 

When Misbah-ul-haq celebrated his ton in a unique style by saluting and doing pushups thereafter; we felt a strange delight. “Hey you all out there; look I am still young at the age of 42, I am not exhausted at 100 runs and I want much more” this was a first impression that many got until he further explained it later in the day.

 

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Misbah said that his hundred was dedicated to the instructors at an army boot camp in Abbottabad where his team spent two weeks training before flying to England.“That was my promise to the army guys when we did our training camp,” he said. “We used to have an honor code where we were told to step into the ground and do ten pushups. I promised them whenever I got hundred I would do that to remind them (Army) we were there. That was for them and the salute was for the (Pakistan) flag. That was what they asked us to do so I did it for them.”

 

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After winning the first test at Lords, whole Pakistani team got lined up in the ground and celebrated their victory with 5 pushups which was cheered all over the world. Captain further explained this at the post match press conference “They(our team) sent this small tribute to all those army men who were working really hard with us at the boot camp so it’s a good message and one thing that we learned from them; those army people they are not getting much salaries but for this flag, for Pakistani nation, for Pakistan they want to sacrifice their lives so that’s a big motivation for all of us and I think everybody is now putting effort for that flag and nation and really try give their 100% and try to win all the games”.

 

 

This further jubilated the nation who felt more proud and connected with armed forces who showed their metal turning over a losing squad into winning; very much evident from the social media posts/speech during that time. Lovely moments of team Pakistan doing celebratory pushups; everybody was so happy, emotions of nation just cannot be explained in words. I myself replayed those pushups many times to pump myself!

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Until last week when the National Assembly standing committee objected to press-ups performed by the Pakistan team players after victory and even asked ‘whom did the players were giving message with those push-ups.”
Rana Muhammad Afzal of the NA committee raised quite an unusual objection, saying players did push-ups after the triumph and remained silent after the defeat. “What’s actually the matter,” he asked.

Above statements raised anger among the public as these were such meaningless questions; Misbah had already explained the story behind all that. Social media trolled the government in their own style and we saw their mockery all over the place”
People reacted in many ways as:

 

Pakistani Democracy, So Insecure that 11 men doing #Pushups can “Lahaq Khatra” to it. What If They Start Doing This Again. #PakFaujZindabad

 

Nation is burning out because of terrorism, NAP is napping, NACTA is dead, corruption is legendary but #pushups banning is an urgent threat.

 

New danger to the Democracy #Pushups

 

Misbah bravely reacted and said players can still celebrate in whatever manner they want. “It was simple and there was no controversy in our minds,” he said. “It’s (up to) everyone’s discretion, but we know there is no negative thing in our minds.

 

Whether it was directly ordered from somewhere OR the minister tried to become ‘Shah se ziada Shah ka wafadar’ the whole episode just bring another chapter of disgrace to the government. Mr. Nawaz Sharif should keep a close check on such people. There are so lean chances of happiness left in our lives, why do you want to steal them too? Why are you so insecure? Doing #pushups does not mean anybody is trying to sack Jamhooriyat and bring dictatorship. We want to see them play and raise the flag, we want to dance with them; please do not kill our inner child, please!!!

I hope that team Pakistan will continue to win more, cheer up the grounds much more and such useless objections will do nothing but glorify the Green boys and their #pushups!

References: Quoted statements from various web links.

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Leaked issues of our Nation…

Panama leaks are the most IN THING these days where everyone seems to run behind our Prime minister and his family after charges of money laundering and notorious investment in offshore companies. There were instances in past when people used to blame PM and family for financial corruption BUT since now it’s from an international forum; opponent parties see an opportunity to cash and exploit these reports. Apparently, it seems legal action against PM and/or his resignation will resolve everything. Our country’s looted wealth will be restored and we will start moving on path of prosperity…

Let’s make a small effort and see can things be resolved by       removing PM or grabbing these big fishes only? Does anyone or anything else carry responsibility of Pakistan’s failure as a nation?

By virtue of this article, I want to leak our own moral and national fault lines; let’s see if we can reach to something better at the end. Pakistan leaks are as follows:

  • Ideological Failure: It’s said there are only 2 nations based on Ideology; first is Pakistan and second is Israel. But Pakistanis have either forgotten this or they are too indolent to learn about Pakistan’s Ideological foundations. Their forefathers carried quiet clear vision with right actions but current breed seems to have forgotten enormous scarifies during Pakistan movement and purpose for which Pakistan was made.
  • Divided amid ethnic, linguistic and sects: People do not follow order of unity given by Allah (S.W.T) and taught by their past real leaders/heroes. They often fight amongst each other based on these differences and display favoritism for their own sections. Pakistan society is limping on endless levels of separation and they let politicians and thugs exploit these divisions.
  • Cultural Crisis: Pakistanis are largely impressed with Indian and Western culture that includes speaking, dressing and behaving like others. They are not keen to learn and apply very own cultural norms like Arabic, Urdu and societal behaviors; they fail to understand power of originality.
  • Lack of team effort: Pakistanis are known to carry enormous talent but this is largely true at Individual brilliance level; combined national effort is scarcely visible.
  • Disrespecting rule of Law: This nation often violates law in their own country and the same people when go abroad then happily follows overseas laws.
  • Traffic Laws: Pakistan nation is one of worst users of road and traffic principles. Scattered traffic, disrespect of general driving/transport principles and fight upon a given accident are usual scenes on roads.
  • Business values: Many individuals do not care much about moral values and established business principles. This is so evident in recent exposure from Ms. Aisha Mumtaz and various TV channels showing unhygienic conditions in restaurants and food factories. Economic terrorism is at its peak during holy month of Ramadan when businessmen become looters as regards to high demand items. “Many people want to make money by any means rather than by fair means”.
  • Hypocrisy, differences b/w theory and practical: Pakistan is surely a Hypocrite society. They do not do what they really believe in. They teach something to their children and then practically do something else; resulting in confused new generation. When somebody raises question to wrongdoing they say “Yeh kaam tu aise hee hota hai RATHER THAN theak kaam aise hota hai”.
  • AASHIQ-E-RASOOL (S.A.W.): Pakistanis claim to be biggest and truest Aashiq-e-Rasool (S.A.W). They are prepared to die in prophet (S.A.W.) name at any time BUT sadly speaking they do not consider living like beloved Muhammad (S.A.W). They fail to display great values of truth, honesty, humbleness, forgiveness, piety, loyalty, faith, discipline etc like our great prophet (S.A.W).
  • Leadership Crisis: Pakistanis continue to wait for a True leader for ages; a supernatural person who will come with a Magic stick (or Danda) and resolve everything in minutes. They lack faith in theirs selves and are not ready to start by leading their own life setting righteous trends.

Above are few of many charges that Pakistanis carry on their shoulders. The key question now is does any corrupt politician, sneaky policeman or ruthless Gangster stops us to corrects such ailments?

After reading Pakistan Leaks, now what do you think dear brothers and sisters; apart from financial corruption are we also not responsible for country’s failure? Shall we make a Judical Commission to sort out our national weaknesses? Parliamentary or Non Parliamentary Committee? Retired or Present Judges will fix above? Does anybody need to give Dharna or long march against us? Shall we do suicides or resign from our current positions? What really shall we to get freed from charges of Pakistan leaks?

Answer awaited!!!

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This article was published on 17 April,2016 at following in April, 2016

Pakistan leaks

http://www.zemtv.com/2016/04/17/pakistan-leaks/

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