QASUR CHILD ABUSE CASE: HIGH TIME TO CHANNELIZE A FRUSTRATED SOICETY

Sexual crimes of different nature have been a factor of Pakistani society which leaves us in a state of shock from time to time. Latest event been rape and murder of Qasur’s innocent Zainab. Lot has been said on this issue and as I write these lines, her murderer is still unknown. This will soon become a story of past, people will again get busy in their own lives until another such event takes place (Allah forbid). It is a fact that only those effected can feel the real pain and all others are mere commentators.

However, if we think sensibly it is an issue for all of us. Moral decline and frustration is on the rise. Every now and then, we hear events of Sexual Harassment, rape of innocent women and in worst cases our little angels are effected. There have even some cases of men abused by some ambitious women. Adultery (of all forms) being considered a smaller crime compared to former ones. If a diagnosis is carried out, we will find out that roots of all such acts are same. If we really want to solve these issues, then we need to really analyze this and implement solutions to root out such awful acts. Human being carry 3 fundamental urges 1) Urge to Live, 2) Urge to Pleasure and 3) Urge to Power. Here the issue is with elements of ‘Urge to Pleasure’, which has not been dealt appropriately in our society.

Talking on this issue is a Taboo, which needs to be broken at this point of time if not at a later stage. Damage control needs to be done.

Lack of correct information

In my opinion, people are not been fed with knowledge about this desire/urge and how to fulfil it. Adding to that, the overall atmosphere of society is also not monitored which adds to confusion and frustration of people leading to such events.

Children are not made aware of probable issues that they might face in this regard. However as the child grows up, his/her body is developed with related emotions. Adding to lack of correct information, he finds bold scenes in the movies and dramas. His/her desires gets a peak with the passage of time. He/she receive information from his/her colleagues or available information from other sources such as internet. Due to lack of formal guidance, many people consider themselves as severely infected and fight undue psychological pressures. Proper knowledge is never conveyed to them.

Sexual Harassment as topic was covered by one of our valiant University teacher which was largely skipped by female students. We also attended with a sense of shyness but it was worthy sessions, which opened our eyes to many issues along with their solutions. There was no indecency involved within those lectures in fact we were given real life examples for sexual harassment. That was first and last formal information that I received in life.

Vulgarity in media

Women is used as a show piece to attract customers. Bold advertisements, dressing of women and the content topics are irresponsibly handled. Such dreamy situations is contrary to situation on ground and takes a person to a different world in which controlling their thoughts and emotions become even a bigger test. Mini cinemas and internet are easily accessible to the young boys where their minds are infiltrated with such dirty things. Within many of the Investigation programs, the topics of sexual harassment and male-female affairs are telecasted irresponsibly giving them a wrong lesson at large.

Nikah (Marriage)

Today, getting married has become very difficult, as people have lifted their demands to sky limits. Useless norms and traditions like Mehndi, Dholki and Dowery etc have made it difficult for a normal person to get married. I know a person who was not initiating his life partner search as he was first targeting to gather Rs.10 lacs and it took another about 1.5 years when he achieved 10 lacs; this is so unfair due to peer pressures. Multiple marriage is considered as a crime. These difficulties often end up in opening doors of adultery/sex crimes within people.

Involvement of Powerful People

During Qasur’s child abuse case, a couple of years back, involvement of some really powerful people was found as reported by media. That story got refreshed this time but it’s yet to reach its logical conclusion.

Some people shamelessly try to forces working ladies in doing questionable acts as part of blackmailing using their seat and influence. Lately, news channels have revealed such mean people.

TO DO’S

Islamic Teachings

We need to be very clear in our approach. At one place we claim to be Muslims and nationals of an Islamic state but at the other place shy away when anybody talks about obeying Islam and implementing Islamic Laws. Fahashi (Vulgarity) is one of main topics of Quran. Allah (S.W.T.) sets clear principles of Parda (veil) and other measures to avoid ultimate incident of Zina (Infidelity).

“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts). That is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do. “ ( An-Noor, Chapter #24, Verse #30) (Ref #1)

We take reference from Hadith regarding fundamental teachings of Islam to avoid Zina (Adultery)

Narrated Ibn `Abbas:

I did not see anything so resembling minor sins as what Abu Huraira said from the Prophet, who said, “Allah has written for the son of Adam his inevitable share of adultery whether he is aware of it or not: The adultery of the eye is the looking (at something which is sinful to look at), and the adultery of the tongue is to utter (what it is unlawful to utter), and the innerself wishes and longs for (adultery) and the private parts turn that into reality or refrain from submitting to the temptation.”

Reference: Sahih al-Bukhari 6612

In-book reference: Book 82, Hadith 18

USC-MSA web (English) reference : Vol. 8, Book 77, Hadith 609

(Deprecated numbering scheme)

(Ref #2)

Strict Islamic Laws must placed in the society. Making an example out of such people will serve the cause by inducing fear.

Ulema (Islamic Scholors) should address the causes and effects of such issues. In Zainab’s case as well; I was wondering where all of those big names hiding out and not giving any guidance statement to millions of their followers. Most of us are not aware about the composition of human body (material and spiritual aspects) and how to stream lines requirements associated with our being as per teachings of Islam. Everyone should make effort to get used to of Islamic practices in this regard.

Our Nation needs a Sex Vaccination

Like vaccines are provided for various diseases ,like the war strategy is made , like controlling the law and order ; sexual issues must be taken up as well. Some suggestions listed are listed below:

  • Indulgence of proper knowledge among growing children and awareness of how to react in case any such enticement is there by an offender. Basic information regarding human body, Male-Female couple relationship to be clearly conveyed to avoid un-necessary curiosity/uncertainty in young generation’s mind. Father can tell his son and mother can tell her daughter regarding this. Furthermore, separate Boys-Girls class sessions can be designed in which message appropriate to a certain age group can be conveyed wisely.
  • Easy weddings to be promoted and useless practices like Mehndi, Dholki and other non-Islamic functions to be curtailed which will reduce the load on masses especially low income class. Encouraging unmarried people to get married via collective marriages.
  • Multiple marriage for men is considered a sin in our society; we are in a state of denial on this issue which can become a tool to give support to thousands of unmarried women.
  • Media must be responsible as regards to content they air. Ladies specially must be cautious regarding their get up.
  • Reaching out the explicit content to be made as difficult as possible with technology and severe punishments.
  • Doctors and psychologists need to come forward with articles and short videos to provide basic sex education to masses.
  • Why child abuse cases are hitting Qasur so hard? this should be seriously researched out. Also to other notorious parts of country infected by such ailments needs to be addressed.

Current system and government is most likely not to take this up seriously. Severity of such issues calls for an immediate action adopting solutions like above in our daily lives. We need to be proactive & aggressive to deal with problems as regards to sexual needs like we carry out arrangements for our living (food, clothes and shelter). This will surely bring a huge drop in the sexual crimes and making our society a better place.

References:

Ref#1    : https://www.searchtruth.com/chapter_display.php?chapter=24&translator=5#30

Ref#2    : https://sunnah.com/bukhari/82

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Pakistan Leaks #49

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Leaked issues of our Nation…

Panama leaks are the most IN THING these days where everyone seems to run behind our Prime minister and his family after charges of money laundering and notorious investment in offshore companies. There were instances in past when people used to blame PM and family for financial corruption BUT since now it’s from an international forum; opponent parties see an opportunity to cash and exploit these reports. Apparently, it seems legal action against PM and/or his resignation will resolve everything. Our country’s looted wealth will be restored and we will start moving on path of prosperity…

Let’s make a small effort and see can things be resolved by       removing PM or grabbing these big fishes only? Does anyone or anything else carry responsibility of Pakistan’s failure as a nation?

By virtue of this article, I want to leak our own moral and national fault lines; let’s see if we can reach to something better at the end. Pakistan leaks are as follows:

  • Ideological Failure: It’s said there are only 2 nations based on Ideology; first is Pakistan and second is Israel. But Pakistanis have either forgotten this or they are too indolent to learn about Pakistan’s Ideological foundations. Their forefathers carried quiet clear vision with right actions but current breed seems to have forgotten enormous scarifies during Pakistan movement and purpose for which Pakistan was made.
  • Divided amid ethnic, linguistic and sects: People do not follow order of unity given by Allah (S.W.T) and taught by their past real leaders/heroes. They often fight amongst each other based on these differences and display favoritism for their own sections. Pakistan society is limping on endless levels of separation and they let politicians and thugs exploit these divisions.
  • Cultural Crisis: Pakistanis are largely impressed with Indian and Western culture that includes speaking, dressing and behaving like others. They are not keen to learn and apply very own cultural norms like Arabic, Urdu and societal behaviors; they fail to understand power of originality.
  • Lack of team effort: Pakistanis are known to carry enormous talent but this is largely true at Individual brilliance level; combined national effort is scarcely visible.
  • Disrespecting rule of Law: This nation often violates law in their own country and the same people when go abroad then happily follows overseas laws.
  • Traffic Laws: Pakistan nation is one of worst users of road and traffic principles. Scattered traffic, disrespect of general driving/transport principles and fight upon a given accident are usual scenes on roads.
  • Business values: Many individuals do not care much about moral values and established business principles. This is so evident in recent exposure from Ms. Aisha Mumtaz and various TV channels showing unhygienic conditions in restaurants and food factories. Economic terrorism is at its peak during holy month of Ramadan when businessmen become looters as regards to high demand items. “Many people want to make money by any means rather than by fair means”.
  • Hypocrisy, differences b/w theory and practical: Pakistan is surely a Hypocrite society. They do not do what they really believe in. They teach something to their children and then practically do something else; resulting in confused new generation. When somebody raises question to wrongdoing they say “Yeh kaam tu aise hee hota hai RATHER THAN theak kaam aise hota hai”.
  • AASHIQ-E-RASOOL (S.A.W.): Pakistanis claim to be biggest and truest Aashiq-e-Rasool (S.A.W). They are prepared to die in prophet (S.A.W.) name at any time BUT sadly speaking they do not consider living like beloved Muhammad (S.A.W). They fail to display great values of truth, honesty, humbleness, forgiveness, piety, loyalty, faith, discipline etc like our great prophet (S.A.W).
  • Leadership Crisis: Pakistanis continue to wait for a True leader for ages; a supernatural person who will come with a Magic stick (or Danda) and resolve everything in minutes. They lack faith in theirs selves and are not ready to start by leading their own life setting righteous trends.

Above are few of many charges that Pakistanis carry on their shoulders. The key question now is does any corrupt politician, sneaky policeman or ruthless Gangster stops us to corrects such ailments?

After reading Pakistan Leaks, now what do you think dear brothers and sisters; apart from financial corruption are we also not responsible for country’s failure? Shall we make a Judical Commission to sort out our national weaknesses? Parliamentary or Non Parliamentary Committee? Retired or Present Judges will fix above? Does anybody need to give Dharna or long march against us? Shall we do suicides or resign from our current positions? What really shall we to get freed from charges of Pakistan leaks?

Answer awaited!!!

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This article was published on 17 April,2016 at following in April, 2016

http://blogs.arynews.tv/pakistan-leaks/

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